Contemplations

 The woman that walked in felt chained down, afraid , fearful, confused, super exhausted, unhappy, heavy, worn and depleted of any life force. Anyway out of it, seemed impossible to achieve  But all thanks to her great good fortune, in walked in another woman who with her humility, knowledge, expertise, sincerity, genuine concern, objectivity, understanding, completely non judgmental attitude and a very  structured approach, held her hand and helped her to move forward. The woman walking out is actually feeling ok with all the experiences and challenges that she had to face, is ready to learn from them and move forward. She is also feeling unchained, free and open to be herself and excited at her second innings. While words are truly not enough to express her gratitude, that's all she has at the moment with a promise that she will make herself and you proud in times to come ... " I want to say thank you to the rare few individuals in my life who have listened without judg...

 Is there a way out of this extreme emotion ?? Oh yes !! There is always a way out of any negativity in your heart and mind provided we want to go there. The few ways that I know are described below: a) Being grateful for what one has ; We may have heard this word  'gratitude' so many times by now, but how often have we actually felt it, is the point. Being thankful for a warm bed, clothes in the cupboard, friends that one can pour their heart to ... To an opportunity to create value in this life, to life's challenges because they are always there to make us grow as a person ...the list can be endless. Let's start or end our day with gratitude if we are not doing it already  b) Not comparing oneself to others ; Let's face it, all of us compare ourselves to others and subsequently feel better or worse. We all have our own journey, lessons, personalities and we don't need someone to make us blow high or blow low , day in and day out. Let's not be caught in thi...

 A strong emotion being generated from one word ... Oh yeah !!!! Am sure all of us at some point of time have felt jealous of others around us. The presence of omnipotent and forever in your face social media also doesn't help this sentiment.  Probable areas of jealousy; others having lesser troubles and more money, being in comfortable and harmonious relationships, vacationing in exotic destinations, having more than one consistent 24 hours help at their disposal, more successful, beautiful, slim, great body... And the list goes on Par jo dikhta hain wahin kya sach hain ??? Pura sach ??  Naaahhh...doubt it because no one, yes No One gives you the complete picture of their lives. And like I probably read it somewhere that if we were all asked to pick the troubles from a basket or a container full of them, chances are we would end up picking our own  Also jealousy essentially arises out of poor self image and low self worth. Time to think about and work on it  Be...

Why do we need to pretend is something I have never understood ? What is so difficult about existing in my own reality ?  Why don't we want others to see the real me ? What is it about the real self that is so concerning ? Why do we more often than not have two or three faces, one for self, one for the close family and the third one for the world? Is it because the real me is so unattractive and plain looking that we tend to dislike it ourselves or are we overtly concerned about getting validation from others in the family / society for which we need to show our best self at all times ?  Or is there a big hollow space in each one's heart that the difference between real and fake , actual and pretense is so oblique that even we can't make out the difference between the two.  Time to think about it ... What say ??