Be generous with Praise



But why do we need to do that is the question ? 

More often than not, we as a human race are mostly sitting on judgements of each other and discussing mostly behind the persons back as to what all is wrong with him / her / them. 

Either we choose to ignore the good in the person or we are too occupied and overwhelmed seeing the bad or the worse, that there is just no desire to see the better aspects of their personality. 


 Everyone without any exception needs praise, appreciation, love, support and constructive criticism to grow.

 Genuine appreciation and praise is an investment in the emotional bank of a relationship where as criticisms are withdrawal from the same bank. So the longer one criticizes, the greater the withdrawals in terms of emotions. And that is surely not dependant on how the criticism is done, for example mocking, sweet talking, being straight forward, passive - aggressive, in your face or behind your back.



Good feedback is after all the keys to improvement but before going down that path of corrective feedback pause for a moment and reflect the following 

1) Do I know the right way to give feedback? 

2) Do I have the persons best interests at heart while giving feedback ? 

3) Am I the right person to give feedback ? 

4) Is this the right time ? 

5) Do I have the right motive to give corrective feedback ? 

If the above answers are NO ;
PAUSE AND REFLECT

and until you get that right, try and FIND A REASON TO APPRECIATE 










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