Functional vs Dysfunctional Families - Part 2

 IS ONE DOOMED BECAUSE ONE IS A PART AND PARCEL OF A Dysfunctional Family


NO, the answer is a loud NO 







Lets see what can be done about it 
  • Become AWARE of what causes the dysfunction.
  • DO NOT BE IN A STATE OF DENIAL
  •  Focus on creating balance and doing everything in a balanced way
  • Stop being a perfectionist and demanding the same from others. It adds to a plethora of negative emotions.
  • Everytime, you feel like criticizing, look for a positive trait in other. Appreciate, and if it's not coming from the heart, indulge in some soul searching. Until then stop all criticisms. If you can't say something good, stop yourself from saying something bad.
  • Become the agent of change in your family by taking responsibilty of breaking the cycle. 
  • How to break that cycle is by reading - applying, processing - applying, praying - taking action, taking help - following up on that diligently, having open hearted conversations with people who are close to you and who can provide empathy and solution - taking action on the solution provided
  • No matter what, it's easier said than done.
  • So DO NOT GIVE UP - not today, not tomorrow and certainly not day after because what you are trying to accomplish will take humungous amounts of efforts, time, dedication, sincerity , follow up and determination 

Last but not the least : BELIEVE 
 



You did not invent these family habits. Your family is like mine, for thousands and thousands of years our families have embraced a dysfunctional lifestyle, passing these habits as gospel on to subsequent generations. This was not done out of malice, spite, or hate, but what they knew best. As ineffective as these habits are, you never stopped to consider another way of loving.

~Author: David W. Earle


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