Try AGAIN, Fail AGAIN, FAIL BETTER

 


Failure is simply the lack of success. It is setting a goal and not achieving it. Let me give me few examples of goals :

1) walking 5000 steps in a day 

2) studying hard to achieve an x percentage in finals 

3) being able to make and deliver a killer of a presentation which is liked and appreciated by all 

4) sticking to the pre-decided restrictions on  eating and drinking, etc 


Taking the first example , if one is not able to complete 5000 steps is a day or a particular week, would one be considered as having failed ? 

Naah, don't think so because goal achievement besides being subjective and dependant on numbers in a few situations, is not so black and white. Going back to the same example , say the person wasn't able to go down for walk at all and then decides and motivates herself / himself towards physical fitness , tries hard and makes effort towards the same , those 3000 or 4000 steps cannot be termed as failure because the desired outcome is not met.

 If anything, it's a process towards achieving the desired target 


So the common definition of being in failure mode as " not achieving a goal" isn't so accurate and straightforward after all. 

FEAR OF FAILURE more often than not stems from experiencing shame or embarassment. It stops us from achieving our greatest potential ever. It stops us from from growing and taking chances on our own selves and our family members. 

 That's what it ultimately boils down to. How does one recover from perceived or actual falls ? 

Solution lies in trying and reframing" FAILURE " 

Shall we try then ??

1) GIVE YOURSELF CHANCES: 
If you are new at something, chances are that you will not be so good at it. That's the time to step up that belief in yourself and give yourself chances 



2) LEARNING OPPORTUNITY :
Believe all the successful people, read up about their journey and one aspect that will stand out is how they perceived failure as an essential ingredient for growth and success. In the words of Henry Ford "Failure is only the opportunity to begin again, only this time more wisely"

 3) DO NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP:
When you are beating yourself up for a past failure ; ASK YOURSELF ; "HAVE I ACTUALLY FAILED" 
Did I give myself enough chances??
Could I have pushed myself harder? 
Did I give my 100% to the task in front of me ? 

4) LEARN, READ, WATCH, INSPIRE YOURSELF : For me the lives of people in national and international sports really inspire. Read about them and their processes. Watch movies like "Coach Carter", "King Richard", Mary Kom, Dangal yet another time because after all 
PROCESS > RESULTS


My all time favourite quotes  :



It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.”

J.K. Rowling  









 


 

 So TRY

                Try again 

   Fail again 

                 Fail better 

     Fail wiser 


 












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