Anger 😠😡😤🤬

 Soo much can be said about this one emotion; Anger. It is a signal that we think we are being treated unfairly. But 

Anybody can become angry — that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not within everybody's power and is not easy.

Aristotle

Nowadays we see reactions of anger, people getting angry everywhere. Few examples of anger are road rage, a lot of    anger is also vented on watsap for any no of reasons, etc. Each of us have our own triggers on what makes us angry, but some common ones include where we feel threatened or attacked, frustrated or powerless like we  are being invalidated or treated unfairly. 













Ever wondered given the same situation why few of us react differently where in the entire body language, tone, speech, manner changes wherein others are able to handle it much more calmly. 

Because there is much more to it than what's visible on the surface 












  The first time I saw this ANGER ICEBERG it blew my mind away and got me thinking. Like in the case of a real iceberg, the majority of the emotions are hidden beneath the surface which we may  not even be aware of.

At any rate, with almost all feelings and emotions, the solution lies within only if we choose to   look at it. Ofcourse there will be times you will be treated unfairly, there will be situations n circumstances out of your control,  if you expect to have control over people that will never be the case, there will be umpteen situations to get you frustrated , life will be grossly mean and unfair most of the times, but what you choose at that point of time, will decide the future course and therein will lie the difference between harmony inside and outside or disharmony every day and every way.


I love this quote above as much as 

"Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die"

Letting go of anger is CERTAINLY NOT EASY. But that's again a choice one makes and works on it diligently day in and day out. 


Wishing you a peaceful life always 🙏



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