Signs and Effects of Narcissism

 In the last blog, we learnt a little about how to identify a narcissist, whether it's me, myself or people around me.

A quick recap .. 


Narcissistic Abuse is quite difficult to endure but the sooner one gains an understanding of it, the faster the healing from the same.

Now for some of the SIGNS and EFFECTS of a Narcissist who could be a sibling, spouse, parent/s or inlaws , boss, colleague or a friend and Narcissistic Abuse are as follows: 


: First and foremost people doubt the abuse ever took place. In public it's so subtle, cleverly manipulated and disguised in the form of repeating a so called funny incident or calling you a joker or clumsy as an example. They laugh with everyone in the room to make the insult seem ... "Well intentioned."

As a result of the above, you are left upset or confused, embarrassed or even even guilty for looking or sounding  like an unwise or silly person.

: Experience Difficulty making decisions : Since you are constantly at the receiving end of nitpicking and criticisms and nothing that you ever do is good enough; there has to be several self confidence and self worth concerns. Over a period of time you absorb the insults and keep second guessing yourself. Example a parent constantly comparing the two children only to call one dumb albeit in an affectionate tone.

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 : Aches and pains : Abuse will most certainly lead to a plethora of physical symptoms 

- body aches and pains 

- gastric disorders including stomach pains and indigestion.

- chronic fatigue 

- insomnia or persistent nightmares

- feeling uneasy, unrelaxed, constantly on the edge can give you massive headaches.

: Living with Anxiety and Depression :  Imagine feeling continuous stress of doing things right, worry about how one will be insulted only to be told later that you are imagining or being over sensitive, feeling hopeless and worthless, not being able to enjoy things that used to bring one joy like watching a movie with friends, and then imagine this going on for years on end;

End result - you guessed it right !! 






:Trust issues : You experience trust issues at work, friendships and personal life, believe that believe that people are out to hurt, leave or betray you. You become over sensitive to judgement from others due to fear of being betrayed yet again 

Then there are still more signs 

- You experience memory loss and wonder why you can't seem to remember something that happened just the other day.

- You may become a people pleaser and overly accomodate people to make them like you 

- You may experience problems with drinking, smoking, eating and likes.

- You may experience post traumatic stress and as a result of abuse be on high alert always, looking out for danger.



While these are few effects and signs of being in a narcissistic relationship, all in all it can have a devastating effect on your body, mind and soul.

But there is help available.

There is also a chance of recovery which is possible.

Let's explore more on recovery in my next blog 

You can't force someone to respect you, but you can refuse to be disrespected.






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