Boundaries

A boundary is a real or imaginary line that seperates two things, walls, countries ... even residences for that matter.


A personal boundary are the  rules and limits we set for ourselves in a relationship.
It helps to create a clear guideline on how I would like to be treated. They let others know what is and what is not acceptable. It honours my needs so that I feel respected and safe 

Since most of my blogs centre around relationship, would like to stick to a broader version of boundaries and that is "Personal Boundaries".



What are these rules and limits that I spoke about earlier if I were to talk about myself ?

A few of them are I don't like to talk on phone post 8 pm, I need a certain amount of 'me time' in a day to self reflect, I disconnect the moment I feel disrespected and so on. 

Ever thought what do these boundaries do ? 

Importance of setting boundaries : 



1) Boundaries keep us safe. 
2) Boundaries define who we are and who we are not. 

3) Boundaries help us focus on what's important to us. For example if I need time to devote to writing certain number of blogs in a week, then I would need to prioritise this over certain other things as well that may come up from time to time. 
4) Boundaries differentiate me from you.
5) Setting boundaries make sure that relationships are mutually respectful and caring. 
6) Boundaries help to strengthen relationships and avoid unhealthy connections. 
7) Setting boundary is deciding what behaviour is ok and what is not. For example few people pass off passive aggressive comments in the name of humour and expect the person at the receiving end to be ok with their "so called jokes".
8) Boundaries improve self esteem for sure and your overall well being.
9) Boundaries help to prevent and avoid burn out, stress and anxiety.
10) Boundaries are a very strong approach towards self-care. 



Now, that we know what boundaries are, think about all the times when you have felt that your boundary has been violated ; may be feeling that the person is "disrespectful"  or "strange" or even "creepy" when  you interact with them,  or a stranger standing too close to you or touching you in inappropriate ways or it could still be being asked personal questions which you are not prepared to answer. Even name calling, like being called a "clown" while you are being funny or sharing personal information without permission are all examples that your boundary has been violated. 

Some more examples of healthy boundaries are: 



Until we meet again with what are the different kinds of boundaries, leaving you with this quote 

" Daring to set boundaries is having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others"
Brene Brown












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