Divorced

 

How many of us agree with the above statement ? 

Oh yes !! 100% percent 

Without getting into the reasons as to why the number of divorces are increasing and marriages are breaking , let's look at divorce a little differently now ; shall we ? 

 A divorce is something no one truly wants but is sometimes, the only option available to the person/s due to certain circumstances and conditions.

Louis C.K.
"Divorce is always good news. I know that sounds weird, but it's true because no good marriage has ever ended in divorce. That would be sad. If two people were married and they just had a great thing and then they got divorced, that would be really sad. But that has happened zero times."

Divorces happen because of a lot of reasons, lack of love and affection, lack of understanding, inability to see the partners point of view,  too much arguing, incompatibility and lack of equality in a relationship, lack of intimacy or/and communication are just few reasons for getting one. And whenever that happens, there is an emotional roller coster. Grief, sadness, loneliness and even anger are some of the feelings that one goes through but having said that, today let's look at the brighter aspects of divorce. 

1)

An unhappy marriage is a breeding place for resentment,  anger, despair, insecurity  and grudges. It is a vicious cycle which leads to more negativity which is certainly draining in more ways than one. And we all have atleast one person we know who is in an unhappy marriage 

2) 

 One may think we are in this marriage for the sake of our children but the conflict between the couple most definately threaten the well-being of a child there by weakening their sense of security and leading to all kinds of problems in their life.

3) 

If you are feeling miserable, unappreciated, disrespected or downright unhappy, it is time for a change. That's why walking away is powerful and it requires strength is huge doses. Why ? 

- Because the outcome may not always be a happy ending.

- Because you are moving out of your comfort zone into an unchartered territory.

- Because it takes courage to say ' I deserve better'. It gives you strength you never ever thought you had. 

- Because walking away creates respect within yourself. It teaches you that sometimes things don't work out and that's ok 

- It allows you to grow in many ways than you had probably anticipated. 

- When you respect yourself enough to walk away, you are also saying that this behaviour is not acceptable.

4)

The tell tale signs of marriage almost being over ; the emotional intimacy is missing or was never there, spending more time alone or at work and being ok with it, the two are more like roommates or co-parents rather than a married couple. 

6) Divorce is not a FAILURE. 

- It provides a chance to reinvent yourself. 

- It helps you to become a stronger and a more effective parent. 

- It teaches you the importance of self care. 

- Marriage isn't a test to pass or fail. It is an experience, a bond that may or may not last forever. 

- It provides an opportunity to not settle for anything less than happiness and peace. 

And lastly, every end has a new beginning. 

My 'failed' marriage made me who I am today. The marriage wasn't a failure. It was a necessary stepping stone. It was a relationship, full of choices, some with unfortunate outcomes. It ended for various reasons but my children, the life lessons and the growth I've shown since have all been successes."  -- Aubrey Keefer

7) 

If it is something that brings some desired relief, makes one happy, puts an end to dragging the relationship for the sake of society or children, would it be so wrong to celebrate it ? 

Think about it and let me know ...